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By: John Gottman


Women made up more than half (51 percent) of the technical and professional workforce. US Census Bureau, DataFerrett, Current Population Survey, Monthly Microdata, December 2014.

The percentage of women who consider having a high-paying career . . . is greater . . . Statistics based on combined responses from two Pew Research Center surveys, one conducted Jan. 14–27, 2010, and one conducted December 6–19, 2011. Data were compared and results were similar. They were combined in order to increase sample size and reliability.

The reverse is also true. Rogers, Stacy J. & May, Dee C. (2003). “Spillover between marital quality and job satisfaction: Long-term patterns and gender differences.” Journal of Marriage and Family, 65, 482–495.

Couples fight more about the division of labor . . . Kluwer, Esther S., Heesink, Jose A. M. & Van de Vliert, Evert. “Marital conflict about the division of household labor and paid work.” Journal of Marriage and Family, 58, 958–969. (1996).

In 2011, men spent an average of 17 hours a week on unpaid work. Abraham, Katharine G., Flood, Sarah M., Sobek, Matthew & Thorn, Betsy. 2011. American Time Use Survey Data, Maryland Population Research Center, University of Maryland, College Park, and Minnesota Population Center, University of Minnesota, Minneapolis.

Ibid.

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Statistics show that for a child born in the United States in 2015, it costs an average of $233,610 to raise that child through age 17. Expenditures on Children by Families, 2013. cnpp.usda.gov/sites/default/files/expenditures_on_children_by_families/crc2013.pf

Page 147: Waldman, Ayelet, “Truly, Madly, Guiltily.” New York Times, March 27, 2005.

Center for Everyday Lives of Families: celf.ucla.edu/pages/index.php

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Research on married couples shows that if a couple holds their relationship as sacred, they have a better relationship. Stafford, L. “Marital sanctity, relationship maintenance, and marital quality.” Journal of Family Issues #37(2016).

 . . . shared religious belief is less important than shared interests, good sex, and division of household labor. Pew Research Center, 2014 Religious Landscape Survey, pewforum.org/2016/10/26/religion-in-marriages-and-families/

Date 7

This questionnaire first appeared in John Gottman’s book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Three Rivers Press, 1999.